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Sex, Dementia and a Husband on Trial at Age 78

Henry Rayhons, 78, has been charged with third-degree felony sexual abuse, accused of having sex with his wife in a nursing home on May 23, 2014, eight days after staff members there told him they believed she was mentally unable to agree to sex.

This is such a compelling story…I’m not sure how I feel about it.

The full story here


Mr and Mrs Rayons


When I read this story this morning, my heart hurt.  I just can’t understand this way of thinking – unimaginable and so terribly sad….I have no other words.

One of the men, Mukesh Singh, convicted of gang raping a woman on a bus in Delhi in 2012 has blamed his victim for the fatal attack, saying “girls are far more responsible for rape” than men.  Speaking from prison where he is awaiting his execution he goes on to say:

“A decent girl won’t roam around at nine o’clock at night,” he said.

“A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy. Boys and girls are not equal.

“Housework and housekeeping is for girls, not roaming in discos and bars at night doing wrong things, wearing wrong clothes.

“About 20 per cent of girls are good.”

“When being raped, she shouldn’t fight back.

“She should just be silent and allow the rape. Then they’d have dropped her off after doing her and only hit the boy.”

Police said the victim, known as “Jyoti”, meaning “flame”, was found with multiple wounds and had also been raped with metal bars, causing catastrophic internal injuries.

See the complete story written by Lizzie Deardon, with the Independent


Apparently Ontario has been slow to change the curriculum surrounding sex education  (last update was in 1998) compared to the other provinces in Canada.  I applaud the changes. They are a reflection of the way things are in 2015.

Not everyone is happy; people are protesting; parents, politicians, and religious representatives are opposed to the schools teaching our children about sex in 2015.  I’m a little confused. I don’t understand what they think will happen to our children – because they learn about homosexuality, will they “become” gay?  if they (more…)


This little boy is 3 year old, Elijah MarshElijah Marsh

Here is a security camera picture of Elijah leaving his apartment in the early hours, clad only in a diaper, a t-shirt and boots…

Elijah Marsh leaving apt

This little boy, his parents, his extended family, and my own family have been in my thoughts and prayers since the tragic story came out last week in Toronto, Canada.  I knew that I wanted to write about him…but I couldn’t decide what to write.  Little Elijah was a typical little boy, described as somewhat shy  – his story ended in tragedy, he was found hours after this picture was captured, curled up in a back yard some 300 metres from his home.

As a mother, my heart hurts for Elijah’s mother, Georgette…I am angered at people who have posted hurtful suggestions that bad parenting is the reason for this tragedy.  I want to write to those insensitive people, I want to write about my own experiences as a mother who has had both of my sons “go missing” for that split second, I want to write about how grateful I am that my own story did not end in tragedy, I want to write about grief, I want to write about gratitude, I want to write about the compassion that steered another father to set up a fund for Elijah’s family that has now raised over $150,000, I want to write about WHY WHY…why does this have to happen…In the end, I think that the answer to what I want to write about is that I really just want to share this story and hopefully everyone who reads it, will have their own personal reaction.

Please read about a little 3 year old boy, who really could be any one of our own children – Elijah

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